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Connector of the Day: Justin Ribeiro dos Santos

February 8th, 2010
04:30 PM ET

There has been a long debate as to whether sex education is something that should be taught to young children in school. But what if things were taken one step further and soft-core pornography was included in the mix?

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It's something that adult film director, Justin Ribeiro dos Santos, thinks will help properly educate students when it comes to sex.

The 32-year-old Englishman believes that in an over-sexualized world, young people aren't getting a correct image of what sex is actually like as well as the potential dangers of addiction when it comes to pornography.

“Kids know a lot about the dangers of drug abuse, but we should say to kids, porn is a vice and, like drugs or alcohol or overeating, it can get out of control," Justin told the Times of London newspaper.

"Parents need to join forces with schools because all this needs to be talked about openly."

We'd like to you know what you think.

Do you think pornography should be included in the school curriculum? Have young people's visions of sex been skewed by the internet? Is education the answer?

Please leave your questions below.

soundoff (85 Responses)
  1. dana

    whatever happened to letting the parents be responsible for teaching the rights and wrongs of sex to their children? sex-education should be taught in the schools, as far as reproduction is concerned but it should end there. this idea is so many versions of wrong, i can't believe its actually being made into a newsworthy story.

    February 8, 2010 at 5:16 pm | Reply
  2. Beavis And Butthead

    Butthead: Uhhhhhhhhhh! Uhuhuhhuhuhuh! Hey, Beavis! They re planning porn at school! Wow!

    Beavis: Yeah! Yeah! Porn rules! School sure will kick butt!

    Butthead: Yes! School s cool! Uh uh! Uh uh! Uh uh!

    Beavis: He he! He he! He he!

    February 8, 2010 at 5:22 pm | Reply
  3. pawel

    That guy is simply looking for new, big market, maybe sponsored by government for his products...;)

    February 8, 2010 at 5:26 pm | Reply
  4. Ribbet

    While kids could benefit from some kind of sexual ethics class, i don' t think the actions and attitudes toward sex displayed in soft porn would we of any value, since they promote the sort of empty obsessions with physical sex alone that is the problem.

    February 8, 2010 at 5:40 pm | Reply
  5. Alex

    I would support this for my children (I'm an American, in my 30s), but I have a feeling this wouldn't go well with other parents. Why not just leave the clothes on, and give the same message?

    I am all for realistic sex education. U.S. teachers are definately afraid to slip in "prohibited" words and ideas. It seems teachers act more "grown up and boring" than most of us will ever be, because they think that is the "responsible" way to act. The responsible thing to do would be to teach sex and drugs (including drinking), and other controversial ideas, until they are no longer taboo.

    Take the international baccalaureate - this is a world-class education which is far superior to what is being taught in rich suburban U.S. schools. Yet this education is being given to some the poorest U.S. inner-city kids. Why do they get the better education (finally)? Because their teachers actually have the freedom, when parents don't care, to teach something useful, which is something better.

    February 8, 2010 at 5:47 pm | Reply
  6. Johnny

    Well, how many murders do children see on TV??? Assault on "vulnerable" females? How many mad bombers, terrorists, child abusers, domestic violence, etc???

    About time for a little sex, maybe even some LOVE, don't you think?

    February 8, 2010 at 6:05 pm | Reply
  7. Lin

    Try teaching abstinence.

    February 8, 2010 at 6:12 pm | Reply
  8. Ahmed

    These are difficult times for the so called human race... from in fights among the same ethnic groups to terrorism to enviornment problems.
    Its coming to the point the so called human race to start sending NGO s
    to jungles of the world to sex educate the animals with large video screens for porn... I didn get sex education at school and I am fine.

    February 8, 2010 at 6:16 pm | Reply
  9. Alicia

    Whatwhatwhaat? Why in the world would someone propose this for children? Maybe as an elective for juniors or seniors in highschool – but not children. - I'm trying to imagine what the curriculum would look like. Would they show videos? Pass around magazines?
    Sorry Tim Shriver, but this is just so retarded!
    I wish I could get these past few minutes of my life back.

    February 8, 2010 at 6:23 pm | Reply
  10. MC

    I think CNN's writeup is meant to titillate rather than inform. They make it sound like Dos Santos wants porn to be SHOWN in class, whereas he's clearly saying he thinks kids should be WARNED about the pitfalls of porn. Two rather different things!

    February 8, 2010 at 6:33 pm | Reply
  11. Vince

    Yes, of course, everyone knows that children present a high risk of getting addicted to porn...

    Why have actors show them the "things of life" while their parents could do it themselves?

    February 8, 2010 at 6:49 pm | Reply
  12. Vince

    And all the better if those are a homosexual couple, so they won't need an additional teaching on the normalcy of homosexual relations.

    February 8, 2010 at 6:51 pm | Reply
  13. coljar

    Perhaps Mr Dos Santos would like to say whether he is a married man with children and if so, how much time he and his wife spends with their children. I can't believe that a man that loves his family will suggest getting his children interested in sex when they should be occupied otherwise.

    February 8, 2010 at 6:51 pm | Reply
  14. MichaelSC

    I have to agree with Alex.
    We need classes specially to teach birth-control and the danger of STD's. Most parents are not talking to their children about sex. Thats one reason for the highest teen-pregnancy in the Western World.
    Just because you do not talk about it, does not mean it does not happen.
    If you give children access to a computer and Internet, then give them some education on what most web-site display one-way or another.
    SEX.
    Kids watch movies where hundreds are brutally killed but if there is a naked boob in the movie, then the protests start.
    Stupidity and ignorance rules.

    February 8, 2010 at 6:59 pm | Reply
  15. David

    Dana must be living back in the 1950's with the Cleavers. Although, "the parents should be responsible for teaching the rights and wrongs of sex", teachers must teach on what addictions are and how they can happen.

    Kids today aren't aware of the concept of sexual addictions and the idea that hard and soft pornography are major contributors.

    Addictions are real and addictions have consequences to individuals and their communities. Let's hope parents are even involved enough in their kids lives to teach them right from wrong, let alone know what "right" is!

    February 8, 2010 at 7:04 pm | Reply
  16. coljar

    Perhaps Mr Dos Santos would like to say whether he is a married man with children and if so, how much time he and his wife spends with them. I can't believe that a man that loves his family will suggest getting his children interested in sex when they should be otherwise occupied.

    February 8, 2010 at 7:06 pm | Reply
  17. opal

    surly not!!!!.... Man how times have changes, i agree with Pawel" this guy must trying to achive something on tax payers pounds. He should be locked away, he might just be a phedefilia!!! how gross. We need to pray soon we will have no say into your kids lives. Thank god for home schooling, keep my child away from monster like him.

    February 8, 2010 at 7:23 pm | Reply
  18. Brian

    Learning about pornography and sex isn't the same thing. Sex education is important, but pornography is for adults and adults only. The images in porn aren't meant for teaching–they are meant for those that already know what sex is all about. I don't want my children watching porn to learn about sex. Not everyone has sex like porn stars do 🙁

    February 8, 2010 at 7:27 pm | Reply
  19. Juda Ben Hur

    Of course you would, Alex. You're an American. You're kid has probably seen you marry a couple times already.

    February 8, 2010 at 7:29 pm | Reply
  20. nell cobbold

    This samba doctor Ribeiros dos Santos is just NUTS, or pedophile,which is the same. Oh my, what's next? The "RIGHT" for kidsto get married? Just leave the kids alone! They are so far the only bright and clean side left in this ever more psychopathic world. Please, just leave them alone! Let's parents decide what's right for them. They are our children, they are not some kind of merchandise.
    This country is so much going down the drain, that the only solution
    seems to embrace Islam. They will protect our children if our leaders cannot do it. They are too busy pleasing and creating new laws to legalize whatever in exchange of votes. Leave the children alone, don't you have plenty enough with this gay business? Where are our rights? Is this country becoming some sort of totalitarian nation? Are they going to place under arrest or in psychiatric hospitals those of us
    that does not want to be part of the madness?

    February 8, 2010 at 7:30 pm | Reply
  21. Takemi

    WEll said Alex... wonder how IB teaches sex education in schools? Would you happen to know?

    February 8, 2010 at 7:31 pm | Reply
  22. sean

    good grief.... "porn is a vice and addictive, here's a sampler. this ones free but the following years of addiction however are gonna cost you kid." as a father of three here is my response. stay the f#*k away from my kids with experimental education. it is my business to teach my kids morals and values and what is right and wrong.

    February 8, 2010 at 7:59 pm | Reply
  23. lisa

    We live in Europe where my kids have been having full and progressive sex education at school since 3rd grade... Then we talk about it at home after their class. They were even shown condoms at school around the age of 14/15.
    HOWEVER; porn, whether soft or otherwise, is by definition purient, and has little or nothing to do with love or making love. Often it is laughable... at least to women... in the degree to which it is NOT EVEN SEXY!!! It certainly also does not teach kids what they might want to avoid, i.e. getting taken advantage of, but rather sets a poor example in this regard. Hey guys, a few good scenes from fairly romatic pg13 movies would do the trick, if at all. But guys, like Mr. Whatever, hate those, right??

    February 8, 2010 at 8:33 pm | Reply
  24. Murloc

    @dana; "whatever happened to letting the parents be responsible for teaching the rights and wrongs of sex to their children?"
    What happened? They don't teach them, instead leaving the conversation open-ended and then the kid gets knocked up/knocks someone up and the cycle perpetuates itself.
    Sure, people don't want some strange teacher instructing their kids in the finer points of sex ed but if they're not willing to do it themselves, SOMEONE has to.
    Provided it was done correctly, I'd be all for teaching our kids that porn is not a normal, loving relationship. It's an artificial fantasy created to play on our biological urges in an effort to separate us from our money and that's all.
    In fact, that, verbatim, is what we taught our kid.
    While we're at it, romance novels should be included as they create an impossible-to-attain, completely unrealistic idea of 'romantic love'.

    February 8, 2010 at 9:24 pm | Reply
  25. Walter Gardner

    This is a very disturbing idea. Sure, the internet has affected youth's views on sex for the worse, but showing [softcore] porn in schools is NOT the answer. The parents are the key to proper sex ed. and this won't make them become any more active in educating their children on this subject.

    February 8, 2010 at 10:01 pm | Reply
  26. Gormak

    Why not?

    If the intent is to educate students on the realities of sex before they try then the current American public school model of "talk about it in high school" fails since sizeable numbers of American teens have sex before then. Example: I had sex for the first when I was a high school freshman. The first time the concept of sex-ed came up in my rather well-funded suburban paradise was when I was a sophomore.

    It's not like you would be showing these kids anything they haven't already seen in a hundred movies and TV shows and Internet videos by the time that they're 14. Show it to 7th graders: It might not help, but it cannot make things any "worse" than they are now.

    February 8, 2010 at 10:11 pm | Reply
  27. chuks

    no no no no wrong idea

    February 8, 2010 at 10:22 pm | Reply
  28. Emily

    How crazy can we get? "Porn is dangerous, a vice" (a statement I agree with), so let's expose our children to it? How many DARE programs pass around a joint for kids to try in hopes they won't like it? There IS something likeable about all these dangerous vices – premarital sex, porn, drug use, whatever – it appeals to a craving in us, or they would not be popular and we wouldn't have to teach against them. Trying to convince kids not to engage in something by giving it to them seems a little cuckoo to me. I will give my kids the straight talk they need at an appropriate age (my daughter is only 2 now, and my son due soon) rather than let the educators do it for me in their own strange way.

    February 8, 2010 at 10:33 pm | Reply
  29. geo35

    Teach them where AIDS comes from. Teach them where babies come from. As for further details, let them figure it out on their own out behind the barn like the rest of us did.

    February 8, 2010 at 10:33 pm | Reply
  30. Dodie ~ CA

    This is not about teaching our children sex education. “Adult film director”, Justin Ribeiro dos Santos wants to create a new venue for his films. This is about making money, not education. To, Adult film director”, Justin Ribeiro dos Santos, just stick with the adult population. No need to spread your greed to another target population, our children.

    The problem with the US, we have over-sexualized the human body. Unlike Europeans who show nude male and female bodies all the time on Soap and clothing ads; therefore, breaking the paring between the nude body and sex. Americans hide the nude body; thus, the equation will always remain, sexual.

    February 8, 2010 at 10:43 pm | Reply
  31. jay

    WTF!!!! Maybe I a a little behind the times... I have a 5 year old daughter. While I find the idea appauling. I find it more disturbing that our morale fiber has been so compromised that there is a need for it to be addressed with children in an effort to protect them. No good could ever come from this. We have allowed the public school system to teach the things that many of us as parents feel is uncomfortable. The school systems are doing such a bang up job that just weeks ago it was announced that after ten years teen pregnancy was again on the rise. My mother who worked for the publice school system said it best. "You have babies raising babies." The problem with that is that at 24 years old I would have never known how to have that converstion with any child. At 32 I find that I am still not fully prepared. That being said, it is my job as a parent to get the infomation and coaching needed to have those conversations. Teach the parents and give it back to families. We should be teaching the teachers, and the teachers for these issues should be the parents. With all of the P.C and neutral non bias approaches to education theres pretty much no room for teaching morales. Parents need to step up and quit making excuses for not being parents.

    February 8, 2010 at 10:46 pm | Reply
  32. chris

    It gives some idea of where we are at as a world that such a question is being asked. Surely we haven't got far too go now, our "civilization" is heading for a train wreck. Here we have more "big words in a row" to seemingly put forward rational ideas that are frankly unspeakable.
    What ever happened to adult concepts, including sex, which used to be legislated against, for instance, during kid's TV viewing times. This is the decriminalize argument wrapped in pretty paper, instead of having things that are illegal, simply make them legal and have warm fuzzy talks about them! Beware of words, Hitler, Polpot, Stalin, Mao and countless others all used perfectly reasonable and rational sounding justifications to convince thousands of others that their activities were the right thing to do. Darwin started this whole slippery slope, we need to decide soon whether we are descended from apes, or created in the image of God. Only the former would ever dream of teaching porn to little children.

    February 8, 2010 at 10:48 pm | Reply
  33. Joe Jackson

    @Lin.
    Hahahahahahahaha
    Teaching abstinence? I was educated in an "abstinence only" school district, and a girl in my class had 3 children from the time period of 7th grade to junior year. I think that preventive methods might be a more realistic option...

    February 8, 2010 at 10:58 pm | Reply
  34. AMR in UK

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    I think it should be taught about, and responsibly. Although I would be wary of age groups.

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    I think the internet has impacted everyone's view of sex. For many previously forbidden imagery is commonplace. Many, like me, have become inured to porn – it would take naked dwarfs juggling sticks of pineapple to even raise an eyebrow these days. If children use the internet, there is a possibility they will come across porn. That can either be explained and managed or it can be furtive and surreptitious. The power of porn lies in it being illicit – if it becomes open and made aware of, the appeal diminishes.

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    Anyone who answers 'no' to this question, rather than 'always', needs to take themselves outside and give themselves a good shake.

    February 8, 2010 at 11:55 pm | Reply
  35. Tebwea

    Sex education is something that we, as parents need to let our childeren know about. It is our duty to educate our children everything and why not on sex? This is so in order to avoid unwanted pregrancy in underage girls, sexual related deseases and so forth to the young.

    Someone there is right in saying that 'Learning about pornography and sex isn't the same thing. Sex education is important, but pornography is for adults and adults only.' and so sex education and pornography are 2 different things.

    February 9, 2010 at 12:02 am | Reply
  36. Luis

    It's sad that Dana thinks every teen in America (or any other country for that matter) have responsible parents. Please, get out from your small shell and recognize reality.

    February 9, 2010 at 12:11 am | Reply
  37. Orville Boutilier

    Sex education and porn are two different ideas. Porn is PROFESSIONAL sexual activity for exhibition and entertainment. Fortunately it provides the most accurate graphical depiction of the sex act and other fun stuff that we're afraid to talk to the kids about. Fact is, kids are more embarrassed to talk to us than we are them, our embarrassment and ineptitude notwithstanding. They are frightened that we'll discover just how much they really do know!!

    The alternative (and current educational forum) is the peer group and the internet. During a scan of my daughters computer (she is 15), I caught the complete and unedited Paris Hilton sex show. So they are watching it whether we like it or not.

    It's time to get our acts together as adults and guardians of the innocence of our children, it's time to develop a mechanism to deal with it. It's 2010. How much more maturing do we need to do?

    February 9, 2010 at 12:41 am | Reply
  38. Keira

    Pornography, no. Sex education, YES!!! Parents should always take the lead in teaching their kids about sex but sex education (not the graphic parts) should be included in every middle school & high school in the world!

    My question would be at what age should this be implemented?

    I wouldn't want my 6-yr nephew learning about sex any time soon, but from the age of 12 on, I think SOME type of curriculum should be included. Parents are always the last ones to know their teenager is having sex. In this day & age, a teen pregnancy is a 'blessing' compared to all the stuff one can get.

    February 9, 2010 at 12:50 am | Reply
  39. Mel

    Sure, I would support this for middle school-age students and up.
    (I would also expect the curriculum to cover human trafficking). Following is a statement made by Dr. Drew Pinsky in the July 2008 edition of Playboy Magazine that also reflects my opinion as to why I would support discussion of porn in the classroom: "The proliferation of porn has totally changed things. The young male's expectations of how women will respond to sex, what women want and how they want it are way off from the reality of who women are."

    February 9, 2010 at 12:53 am | Reply
  40. dave

    Alex's comments were a bit sick, don't you think. Any parent that would support this has sex problems of their own. That simple

    February 9, 2010 at 12:56 am | Reply
  41. Andrea

    i think it should cause like, a lot of girls have sex at like 14 and they immediately regret it after cause it wasnt what they thought it would be.

    February 9, 2010 at 1:11 am | Reply
  42. Giorgio (Italy)

    Sex education is something important, whether it is taught by teachers or parents. The most important thing is to let the children learn and believe that the best way to have sex is with love, not some sort of game or obsession... thats where the line starts to be crossed... even though in this crazy and lost world the word LOVE is beginning to fade away (if not already has), but that they will find out on their own on their 20's...

    So the concept of making love and reproduction it is something that CAN be taught in schools, not some sort of porn! this will only make them more curious and active from early ages...

    Mr. dos Santos, go back to brazil to dance some samba and keep making your porn over there... and stop pretending you're and englishman...

    February 9, 2010 at 1:24 am | Reply
  43. bam bam

    youve got tobe kidding me, this guy probably took a really good marketing class in college and is looking for a new window of opportunity. why even bother giving him the attention he does NOT deserve? let us parents decide what we teach our kids. There are so many more things our kids should be learning at schoo, and porn is definately not at the top of my list!

    February 9, 2010 at 1:39 am | Reply
  44. B151

    I think this is a good idea.

    When I was a boy I found/saw quite a lot of porn magazines (hidden in old barns, on summer camp, pinched from the cupboards of school principals...). I, ofcourse, read them all together with a bunch of mates !
    I don't know about them, but for me the result was that it took me the next 8 to twelve years to finally figure out that a lot of things those magazines showed or wrote about is basically a load of bull.

    So distinguishing asap the crap from the real thing and between seeing porn and having real, loving sex would have been a real help for me – and I figure I'm not alone.

    With the internet acces to porn is so much easier (parents, don't kid yourselves, your offspring WILL find a way to look at it) and the content is so much more extreme then it was 35 years ago.

    So yes, I think it's a good idea to tell kids for instance that an actress is faking it while taking it up the ****...
    If you're shocked, consider this; if nobody tells her, your daughter might feel obligated to comply when her boyfriend asks her to try it out like they've seen it on some porn channel... it seemed like fun there !

    February 9, 2010 at 1:41 am | Reply
  45. Mark

    THIS IS THE STUPIDEST IDEA EVER. PUT THOSE IMAGES IN OUR SCHOOLS?!!! ARE YOU KIDDING!!! PORNOGRAPHY IS A HUGE MONEY MAKER FOR SOME, AND FOR MILLIONS IT HAS BECOME THE FOUNDATIONAL DESTROYER OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS AND FAMILIES. NO PORN IN SCHOOLS!!! I CAN"T BELIEVE THIS IS EVEN A DISCISSION!

    February 9, 2010 at 1:44 am | Reply
  46. mie

    Let each family educate its children . Let extra schooltime be spend on good moral literature and we will have a clean , moral, society . Agree with it or not but there is a right and a wrong ,
    Pornography is more than wrong and addictive .
    The act of procreation is to be reserved only between husband and wife legally and lawfully married . This can be taught in schools.

    February 9, 2010 at 1:45 am | Reply
  47. Mark

    meant to type (DISCUSSION) !!!

    February 9, 2010 at 1:46 am | Reply
  48. Pedrito Lanuza

    Instead of soft-core porn to be included in the school curriculum, I would still stick to Sex Education but further enhance it to include the effects of sex addiction, STD's and HIV-AIDS, as well as moral responsibility and personal accountability of each individual when comes to engage in sexual activities. Society per se (such as homes, schools, churches, government entities, NGO's, socio-civic groups) should also support and work together to ensure that we don't see a next generation of sex-manics/sex-crazed adults in the near future.

    February 9, 2010 at 2:04 am | Reply
  49. Gary

    It is time for lots of Prayer. The world is becoming so dark with all the craziness that is going on. This is a ridiculous idea. Obviously the devil is working over time. It is time for us who truly believe in the Almighty God to usher in his Glory.

    February 9, 2010 at 2:08 am | Reply
  50. BoeckenNO

    Our Western societies get more and more godless. And we start real early with that. NO – NO to pornography and NO to pornography at school. I wonder how we want to explain giving "education" in things God calls an abomination once we will stand before Him.

    If you only believe God means what He says in His Word you must stand up against this!

    February 9, 2010 at 2:34 am | Reply
  51. Alex

    This guy, school authorities and the author of the this blog should all wake up to the fact that most kids have seen their first hardcore porn movie by the age of nine. That's the beauty of the internet.

    February 9, 2010 at 2:44 am | Reply
  52. Kris Gonzales

    Porn should NEVER be included in school lessons. It is addictive and destructive. It leaves people with irrational and unrealistic expectations of sex and takes away the excitement from having sex with their future husband or wife.
    Kids need to know about sex but they don't need to know how to have sex that young; you're only asking for more adolecent pregnacy..

    February 9, 2010 at 2:56 am | Reply
  53. Joe M

    get em' while there young ey Santos...this is why I homeschool my kids...

    February 9, 2010 at 3:22 am | Reply
  54. Radityo

    I think it shouldn't put in curriculum in the below high school education.
    As youth as the children should be get informal sex education from his/her family. When it's begin teen and have study in high school, sex education must be learn as and tauch in formal education.

    February 9, 2010 at 4:02 am | Reply
  55. travis

    yes, yes it should. we barely even get sex education anymore and parents are either too busy or to aquard to talk to their kids about sex anymore. sure the responsibility should fall on the paretns, but thats why we have so many teen mothers, early abortions, and STDs flying around

    we dont even have proper drug and alchol education anymore

    our education system if broken and some people are trying to make it even worse by forcing their god back into the mix which would prevent kids from learning about sex, drugs, and other forms of vices such as not over eating

    February 9, 2010 at 4:36 am | Reply
  56. Tyler

    Oh no! Moral degradation of society and such!

    If this educates children more thoroughly about sex, and it increases the use of contraceptives, then let's do it. No need to be squeamish about sex.

    February 9, 2010 at 4:36 am | Reply
  57. ann

    Alex,
    Highly debateable that IB is FAR superior than a US education.
    My oldest graduated from IB and got into Durham England. It helped her because she chose a non US University. But if your kid wants to go to a US Uni. an American Edcation is best in my opinion.
    IB system-it's all about the exams. They teach for the exams. Kids don't think for themselves.

    About sex ed. No Porn should NOT be allowed in school.
    Girls should learn how to protect themselves from STDs and Unwanted Pregnancies.
    Parents should encourage their daughters to dress appropriately in order to not get the males unnecessarily excited. I do not mean completely covering them like some religions advocate-that is extreme. Just dress professionally. I'm all for conservative school uniforms to put everyone on the same level.
    Maybe if children grow- up with these expectations, they won't be so desperate for porn when they become adults.
    Also, parents should censure what their children are seeing on the internet. Keep the computers in the living room so parents can keep an eye on their kid's surfing habits.
    Parents must have such a good relationship with their children, that talking to them about sex is not a terrible, embarassing thing.
    Too many parents are too busy to spend time with their children.
    I'm amazed how many parents entrust their children to maids or nannies!
    Parenting is a full time job. and teaching sex ed to ones child is part of the deal a parent makes when they decide to have sex themselves and bring a child into the world.

    February 9, 2010 at 4:42 am | Reply
  58. Kat

    Its important to stick with the facts in this particular subject. Students should be given all the facts about sex. The values of sex have changed over the years. As an Elementary Education major, I would be appalled to teach pornography in my future classroom. Teachers have a big responsibility to educate their students to the fullest extent possible, but this matter is one that parent should take into their own hands.

    February 9, 2010 at 5:05 am | Reply
  59. Dan in Hong Kong

    I used to put Playboy and Penthouse inside my comic book covers when I was a young lad so I could read at my leisure. I think they did a me a lot of good

    February 9, 2010 at 6:05 am | Reply
  60. Adam

    I'm pretty sure pornography has a negative effect on the development of a child's brain. Does anyone have any solid info on this? All I see is un-cited information and opinions online.

    February 9, 2010 at 6:23 am | Reply
  61. markus

    Here in the Uk many parents don't even teach their kids the basic right or wrong, never mind sex ed, The Uk has the highest rate of teenagers having children in Europe. In parts of mainland Europe porn isn't hidden its available for all to see, and once they've had their look and giggles (normally around age 11/12) its not bothered with.

    So as part of a frank and open discussion on all types of sex yes i can see porn used in schools, However it should be like sex ed is meant to be just the facts and nothing else, I don't like it when the church schools change the lessons so that it comes inline with their faith

    February 9, 2010 at 6:42 am | Reply
  62. dude

    oh, what would we do without sex ed? for millions of years there was no such thing... the earth is full of people!

    i think if we stick to the science... it's fine... as far as showing kids what it looks like... comon! they all know... most kids see it in the films and on the internet already... there is no need to include what it looks like... it is only going to make people (parents) angry...

    stick to the science / anatomy and statistics on s.t.d.'s its enough...

    February 9, 2010 at 6:47 am | Reply
  63. another place

    many other countries don't have sex ed incorporated into their cirriculum. showing porn is more than showing the anatomy and more than educating... someone is trying to make a buck.

    February 9, 2010 at 6:49 am | Reply
  64. H. B.

    The article says Mr. dos Santos thinks soft porn should be "in the mix," but doesn't specify HOW. It implies, though, that he thinks showing kids soft porn could be used in a constructive manner. It just doesn't come right out and say he thinks kids should SEE the soft porn.

    I'm a fierce advocate of full sex education in schools, which doesn't allow the religious wingnuts to dictate the curriculum (or rather what WON'T be on the curriculum, like condoms or the right, if pregnant, of a girl to be told ALL her options, not just some wingnut's idea of what they should be told).

    So the article is unclear – and I suspect that is intentional.

    I see no way that showing semi-nude photos would be better than instructing kids that visuals of peoples' bodies below the waist and above the legs are inappropriate. They can be told, too, not to let anyone other than a parent or doctor touch them in those places, and to make a big stink if anyone tries. If "visuals" are deemed needed, cartoons or drawings of the body areas in question can be shown.

    They should also be told that, like many very good things, sex can be abused and cheapened. Even good things can be harmful when overdone or misused. They can be introduced to this concept with things like salt. Salt is essential to life itself. Yet too much salt can kill you. Things like that.

    Once they have been TAUGHT proper sex education, and know what the body organs are, how they do things that they do, etc., including the purposes sex serves (making babies and expressing profound love for a partner) they can THEN be taught why the exhibition of sex acts reduces it to something impersonal, entirely selfish and meaningless.

    Sex is to be shared, in joy, between people who are old enough to apply it properly. Kids should be told that they do not – yet – have the emotions in themselves to participate in sex, because their bodies have to undergo some changes first. It is true of all kids, not just them. Appreciation of it comes with puberty, which they can all expect to happen to them. With that appreciation should come respect. Just tossing pictures of it around indicates no respect at ALL.

    The finest gift anyone has to give to the most important person in their life (a spouse or committed partner) is sex. If it's handed out like a plate of sandwiches, it loses that fineness, and you will no longer HAVE that gift any more, when that one special person appears in your life.

    I see no purpose to be served by serving up porn – hard or soft – to kids who don't even yet know what the physical feelings ARE that make anyone want to do those things. Some may even find such visuals scary.

    I walked into my parents' bedroom when I was about 5, and saw my father on top of my mother. They both froze – of course! But I was scared. I thought he was trying to hurt her. But it made no sense, because my father was one of the gentlest people in the world. So I remained confused, and still apprehensive, even after the initial fear was overcome by my knowledge of my father.

    It's fine to tell kids that the man is usually lying on top of the woman, and moving his organ in her – and that, for both of them, the whole thing is very pleasurable – and also tell them that one day, they, too, will be able to understand this pleasure, but that their bodies aren't quite ready to have it yet.. They don't need to SEE it.

    My parents were "enlightened" for their day – and told me that babies are made when the man puts his this into the woman's that. They didn't go into the emotional and sensual delights, though. So I told ALL my friends, with authority, that the couple would SURELY have to go to a doctor if they wanted a baby, so he could put this into that for them. They couldn't possibly do it themselves!

    February 9, 2010 at 6:56 am | Reply
  65. Mike James

    CNN should be condemned for even printing this ridiculous "story". It certainly isn't news. Do you people have an agenda, I wonder?

    February 9, 2010 at 7:20 am | Reply
  66. Kc

    Awful..greed has sure gotten dis far.

    February 9, 2010 at 7:40 am | Reply
  67. sam

    This guy is a crackpot !

    February 9, 2010 at 7:48 am | Reply
  68. Gerhard Hoffmann

    education is (at least part of) the answer to everything. We can either educate our children of let them do it themselves. We cannot control our children and look them away but only educate them. Are there still people who don't want to accept this?

    February 9, 2010 at 8:05 am | Reply
  69. AMR in UK

    I think that some may have missed the point of the question here.

    Clearly, it is wrong to distribute pornography in school, which is why nobody is suggesting that we should. If you are too young to buy it, by law, then you are too young to be given it at school.

    However, it should be taught about, it should be explained and not remain either furtive or something to be accidentally discovered.

    The same way that teaching children about alcohol awareness at school does not mean giving them alcohol.

    Mind you, given the inability of some on here to read and understand, perhaps it would be more prudent to concentrate on the basics at school.

    That would be illegal, as would giving them porn.

    February 9, 2010 at 8:57 am | Reply
  70. Will

    I'm no prude, in fact I'm quite liberal in my views. In this day and age, it is better to be in touch with reality than 'sweep things under the carpet". However, there is much more to sex than simply the mechanics involved. It's one thing to expose students at college to the work of Kinsey or Masters & Johnson. Kids in a high school setup might be more 'grown up' than we were at the same age, but in my opinion, they are still emotionally ill equipped to deal with the implications of adult relationships, not to mention the responsibilities that go hand in hand with it. There's a big difference between 'having sex' and 'making love'... will 'soft porn' convey this message? Let's not cheapen the experience of intimacy any more than it has been already.

    February 9, 2010 at 9:28 am | Reply
  71. Regular Joe

    "They can be told, too, not to let anyone other than a parent or doctor touch them in those places, and to make a big stink if anyone tries. "

    Are you kidding me?? There is something wrong with that statement right there! Kids should be taught that even a parent or family member cant touch them there! Where I grew up, sex education was a nihil (sex was and still is taboo to discuss...its ignored like it doesnt exist), teenage pregnancy ran rampant, most kids had lost their virginity at 12 or 13 and most had 2-3 babies by the time they graduated!

    It was also a well known fact that most of those kids had been to coin the term loosely "messed with" by their parents and other family members. I knew one family of 5 (the kids were all girls) where all the girls had kids by their own father by the time they were 15! If we had had proper sex ed when/where I grew up and were taught that its not ok for ANYONE to touch you there except a doctor during a SUPERVISED medical exam (ie nurse and/or parent there), I'm sure kids would be a lot better off for it in the places where ignorance still reign.

    February 9, 2010 at 9:32 am | Reply
  72. Lionel

    Except in a lyrical understanding, sex is not a drug, there is no such thing to addiction to it. there are though some addicted to puritanism/bigotry and other religious driven complexs.
    Nothing more natural than sex. But porn at scholl is a quite ridiculous idea, it is for parents to discuss the implications regarding birth control and prostitution/violence beside from that it's like other things 'practice makes perfect'

    February 9, 2010 at 9:39 am | Reply
  73. AMR in UK

    Ooops, my last two sentences are the wrong way round.

    Just as I was making a point about people's lack of basic educational skills.

    I believe the current vernacular goes....

    DOH!

    😀

    February 9, 2010 at 9:39 am | Reply
  74. Regular Joe

    *edit to previous comment*

    For the rest I mostly agree with your statement H.B. except that the only purpose of even mentioning pornography during sex education is to re-iterate its destructive abilities (ie that its fantasy and NOT reality and thus not to be believed and taken in moderation as with anything is alright but you can become an addict to it and sex just like with alcohol and drugs), but should it be shown? My answer is no as they are able to see enough "fantasy pornography" through peers and other means, but they should be taught the truth of what it is and how harmful it can be.

    February 9, 2010 at 9:48 am | Reply
  75. hollysme

    Teachers have enough trouble teaching the basic curriculum- this is NOT the school's job. Stay focused!!

    February 9, 2010 at 10:09 am | Reply
  76. Bernard

    I think tath sowing porn in class whould be rong to say at least but teaching them about is not. But like all things in life it fits into a larger frame on can not simply say that a thing is rong withot saying for what reason. Ther for it is more inportant to get all the aspects of sexuality involved. From the chemestry that binds us to the great works of litterature and art to convay the emotions.
    sorry for my bad English I'm not a native speaker.

    February 9, 2010 at 11:14 am | Reply
  77. whit

    Education of sex is implemented or not rest with the respective traditional culture and custom etc. It is suitable in US but might not in another country. So we should keep eyes on the specific situation. I am a chinese, you know chinese traditional culture is comparatively conservative, even though inner-city primary schools of inner-city have already been involved relative curriculum of sex since forth grade. The main contents of the sex education just introduce the body's organs as well as correlative functions. The further informatin about sex will be presented in primary school even not in high school.

    February 9, 2010 at 11:23 am | Reply
  78. Ricco

    If parents did their job, schools wouldn't have to do this!!!! The schools already raise children for parents – it's time to give some of their duties back to parents. Schools cannot do their job now because they have to make up for parents deficiencies. It's time parents took back their job and did it!!!!

    February 9, 2010 at 11:54 am | Reply
  79. Josh

    I think if Mr. dos santos is coming from the right place it is an interesting issue and topic that should not be immediately condoned or dismissed.
    The impact of the internet on sex is enormous. Mr. Dos Santos what do you think is the overall impact of the digital age on sex?
    Do yout hink it's going to get worse?

    February 9, 2010 at 2:11 pm | Reply
  80. LISA

    Instead of trying to show soft porn so kids to come into contact with hard porn first – why don't we just make porn really inaccessible?
    Is that possible? Couldn't we have stricter censorship and access rigths to sites?
    Why is it that porn is just a click away?

    February 9, 2010 at 2:12 pm | Reply
  81. Annie Broderick

    Teenagers are finding it difficult to grapple with sex education already; to include porn in the educational curricula is to expose them to a vice of a corrupting poportions. And it sends the wrong signal about the defination of sex. To teach them about porn may highten faster their hormonal adrenalin and cause them to want to experiment at a much earlier age. Some matured people are finding it difficult to do away with their addiction to porn. The youths whose brain formation is yet to be developed in stages is going to indulge instead.

    February 9, 2010 at 3:58 pm | Reply
  82. nell cobbold

    This is just SEX TERRORISM, and "Samba" Dos Santos a kind of Bin Laden. Come on dude go back to Rio and get a life preparing the next
    sex carnival. I'm sure you must have some great ideas for your desguise.

    February 9, 2010 at 4:13 pm | Reply
  83. Kyle

    It hadn't crossed my mind in the past, but I think that educating children/early teens about sex in greater detail and, to some extent, pornography, could - depending on the child's maturity and/or willingness to be educated - give them a better idea about the act of sex, the psychology tied into it, and the many consequences of sexual activity.

    As far as young people's vision of sex being skewed, I absolutely agree that it is. Not only is pornography more accessible today than ever, but young people (and especially young boys) are viewing porn at an alarming rate.

    But it's not just that they're watching it, or watching it often, though the potential for addiction is there - it's that they aren't comprehending, in adult terms, what they're watching. The problem lies in the fact that they aren't being told the truth about what sex is and what it means emotionally.

    I'm twenty-two. My youngest cousin is twelve. A few months ago I was being a good big cousin, playing video games with the little guy. At one point the kid logged onto YouTube and began searching for "funny" videos to show me - whatever that means to an immature twelve year-old. He asked if I'd seen the infamous "Two girls, one cup" video.

    (For those of you who've seen it, I don't need to explain what that video is all about. For those of you who have not, I don't recommend watching it.)

    At any rate, I immediately thought: why does my innocent (or so I thought) twelve year-old cousin know about this video, and why does he think it's "cool" or "funny" to show it to me? The answer is simple: a) it's as easy as typing in a few words to your Google or YouTube search bar, and 2) this kid, like many others, does not understand sex.

    This extreme case brings up yet another issue: how do we - the educators and those who would need to approve of such education - handle unique fetishes such as "Two girls, one cup" and other things of that nature?

    This discussion leaves us, the adults, with two options: 1) "stricter censorship" like Lisa and others have recommended above, or 2) proper education, including a no holds barred, in-depth discussion with our youths, describing not only different forms of sexual activity, but also, as I mentioned before, the psychology involved.

    No offense to Lisa and others who share her views, but wouldn't tighter restrictions (like most things in this country) only make the situation worse?

    Consider America's ridiculous drug war: Like sex, uptight U.S. policy-makers tell kids that drugs (including marijuana and alcohol) are bad, that they will ruin your life, etc., etc.

    So they put restraints on these substances, taxing cigarettes at a higher rate than ever, raising the age that one may purchase these cancer sticks to nineteen in some states, cracking down on well-to-do suburban marijuana users and dealers (cause they're so dangerous), and shutting down places that serve alcohol to people under twenty-one.

    And what does this suppression lead to? What do these "strict" rules cause? Well, it causes teenagers, the easiest age group to influence, the age group that will rebel for the sake of rebellion, to buy cigarettes, alcohol, marijuana, and other drugs for the hell of it. Because like my little cousin with something he doesn't understand, this is the "cool" thing to do, in part because they're told that it's bad.

    If you tell a thirteen year-old in France or Italy that it's okay to drink wine, they're less likely (because they aren't told 'NO!' and because of wine's bitter taste) to use or abuse it.

    If you raise a child in The Netherlands with the idea that cannabis isn't the devil, that it doesn't ruin your life, that it grows naturally like spinach or broccoli, they're less likely to abuse it, less likely to make a big deal about marijuana use.

    When it comes to vices like sex, drugs, and gambling, U.S. law is tougher than most developed nation-states. Meanwhile, the U.S. sees more people die from alcohol- and cigarette-related deaths than any nation, more marijuana use that any nation, more synthetic drug use that any nation, more addiction than any nation. Are you catching my drift?

    Putting greater restrictions on anything will only raise the level of curiosity in those you attempt to restrict. In my mind, education, and therefore greater awareness, is the only answer.

    February 9, 2010 at 5:12 pm | Reply
  84. mghe

    I taught a sex ed class in public school. Amazing the response it got when taught from the angle of consequences. They wanted to know why no one ever told them these things (all backed up by current info available at mostly medical facilites). The real consequences of STD, the broken heart – wasted time's consequences, the divorce effect, and so the list went. Kids hate the green light – 'everything goes' mentality. Give them some credit! Give them facts.

    February 10, 2010 at 3:18 pm | Reply
  85. nell cobbold

    Forget about playing Mozart concerts to your baby while still in your womb and just get closer to your TV set while watching a porno movie.
    Did I get it right? It seems you'll have a smart healthy kid. That's what
    some "specialist" called progress. And it seems we should be grateful
    to them. They just don't close an eye worrying about how to make this
    world a better place. A better place for who??!! The pedophiles? The new
    "prophets" that the only thing they have in their heads is how to go lower
    more decadent and destroy the last lights of what once was called
    civilization. Watch out people we are going to end up being a bunch of
    baboons.

    February 11, 2010 at 4:21 pm | Reply

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